Friday, March 25, 2016

the talk

i had THE TALK last night with the kids.  you know...THE in the facts of life, the birds and the bees.  that one.
i didn't start out the evening ready or prepared to have this talk.  it was just an opportunity that presented itself when luca pulled a tampon from purse and asked what it was...and i told them that it would take some time and some explaining and it was adultish, and i asked if they were ready.  yes, they said.
so off it went.
some questions, some answers, some quizzical looks, some pondering...and then after the basics, they asked me to stop.  they had enough.  they weren't horrified, but they were done.

i considered this a victory (although i didn't expect any parenting prizes)...but the victory was in that the conversation was easy, natural and comfortable.  we were all fine.  great, in fact.   it was such a stark difference from the "Facts of Life" talk that my mom gave to me and my brother (which by the way, i was expecting her to teach us to balance the checkbook, not to tell us about things like eggs and sperm and sex  and that she and dad had sex at least twice!).  we never talked about the talk or any details ever again- but i hope i can keep this book open with my own kids, and help them to be responsible, safe, healthy.

1 comment:

To Blog or Not to Blog said...

nice. I found the book 'where did I come from' rather valuable as a child. I don't remember my mom having the conversation w/ me. Though I suppose it must have happened.